tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1433316492736199047.post3183557050083351140..comments2024-03-05T11:46:21.984-08:00Comments on Mrs. Quartermaster: I need a Jar, a Dictionary, and a SpreadsheetUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1433316492736199047.post-90877230411924396792012-06-18T07:45:31.121-07:002012-06-18T07:45:31.121-07:00Thank you, thank you, thank you! I am going to try...Thank you, thank you, thank you! I am going to try to get my thoughts under control and send you an email tonight :-D! I appreciate it so much!Kyrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01970455091076592576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1433316492736199047.post-29409508111172286622012-06-17T19:49:58.092-07:002012-06-17T19:49:58.092-07:00Haha, Kyra! I do know Kerry, her older sister is m...Haha, Kyra! I do know Kerry, her older sister is my best friend. :)<br /><br />Feel free to email me mycamokids@gmail.com :)<br /><br />The Ukraine program is a total moving target. But the important thing to know is your social worker who does your home study has to put specific conditions down that you are willing to accept/able to handle, so Ukraine or any other country for that matter isn't going to give you a child with a known medical need that you are not comfortable with enough to put in your home study.<br /><br />So, yeah, send me an email! :)Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12514992909586849215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1433316492736199047.post-6948370470708879842012-06-17T14:04:13.847-07:002012-06-17T14:04:13.847-07:00I completely understand that there will be special...I completely understand that there will be special needs, anyway, I'm just struggling with how all of that will work. If nothing else, I have learned an enormous amount in just the last couple days (I was just reading about HIV+ adoption last night and that info just blew me away!). We had always planned adopting an older child, because of my husband's situation, so age has never been much of a worry. I guess a lot of my fears/nervousness/anxiety come from that fact that I just have no idea how the process works, anymore. A few years ago when we first starting discussing things, the program in Ukraine was so much different. I don't think it would be a good situation for anyone is we were referred to a child that we didn't feel we had the tools to take care of...and then what? I'm also a little nervous about how EFMP works (we are mostly likely going to have to enroll my daughter when we PCS next, anyway, due to her VAS heart murmur). I would LOVE to pick your brain, Lora, and learn anything and everything you are willing to discuss! If I add an "email me" button, would you mind shotting me a note? Or shoot me a pm through Facebook? (Also, HOW DO YOU KNOW KERRY?!<---killing me)Kyrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01970455091076592576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1433316492736199047.post-33914535728549200062012-06-16T15:43:02.494-07:002012-06-16T15:43:02.494-07:00Never say Never :)
The truth is, every single kid...Never say Never :)<br /><br />The truth is, every single kid out there who is up for adoption has "special needs". All of them are the product of some set of circumstances that resulted in being unable to remain with their birth family. That in and of itself leaves emotional scars, even on very young children. And if they have been in an institutional setting or foster care…..they will have "special needs" by default. They may not be physical needs, but emotional needs can be just as much if not more difficult and taxing to deal with.<br /><br />The fact that our daughter, Vi, needs leg braces and physical therapy because of her CP isn't any different from my other kids each of who have quirks and needs different from the others who are biologically mine. Some of them have other medical stuff (minor), some of them have emotional stuff, they struggle in different areas at school etc. Being the mother of 5 I have long since outgrown the idea that there is such a thing as "normal". But she was a kid who needed a family, just like any other kid living in an orphanage. CP is easier to deal with than the emotional & mental toll of spending 6 years in an orphanage and having no clue how to be a part of a real family. I imagine many of those issues can carry over to kids who have been in foster care as well. I hope that more people see our story and are less afraid/concerned about adopting an older special needs child. I do not believe the risk is any higher or the challenge any greater than adopting a "healthy" child. <br /><br />Ukraine has a law in place right now that prevents the adoption of children under the age of 5 unless they have specific medical conditions on a "List" they have created. If you are interested in talking about it more or have questions I would love to hear from you, even if you are a few years away from any sort of adoption.Lorahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12514992909586849215noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1433316492736199047.post-10884540834520153162012-06-15T20:14:45.132-07:002012-06-15T20:14:45.132-07:00I wish you guys luck! I completely understand Jona...I wish you guys luck! I completely understand Jonathan's fears--that and the nature of the beast while being in the military are really the only reasons we are going to avoid that route. <br /><br />If we adopt from Ukraine, it's most likely it will be a child who is 5 or older. We were talking about it last night, and we think we would like to let E continue to be the eldest. So we're a few years out, as well, haha.Kyrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01970455091076592576noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1433316492736199047.post-24727156341676815132012-06-15T16:25:30.156-07:002012-06-15T16:25:30.156-07:00You're epicly awesome for even considering it....You're epicly awesome for even considering it. Maybe it makes me a jerk, but I'll admit up front that when (if) we adopt, it will not be a special needs child. I will be the first to admit that I do not have what it takes. <br />We do actually have every intention of adopting one day. Not for several years, though. We're expecting to adopt an older child (NOT a baby, I am DONE with babies), and we'll probably get a child who is around Missy's age (a little younger probably). <br />It is MY desire to actually be foster parents. Jonathan is unsure about that. Not that he doesn't want to - he's afraid of falling in love with a kid he can't keep. In any case, it's pretty likely we'll adopt out of "the system."Jamie Bhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04687752258785407906noreply@blogger.com